'It's the only time I can see my family': Newlywed asks coworker to give up his 2-week vacation he planned 1 year in advance so she can go on her honeymoon, balks when he says no

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    AITAH for refusing to give up my vacation days so my coworker can go on her honeymoon?
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    I work at a small company where vacation time is pretty limited, and we have to request it months in advance. I put in my request almost a year ago to take a two-week vacation during the holidays. My plan was to visit family, who live out of the country, something I only get to do once every few years.
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    Recently, a coworker of mine, who's getting married, came up to me and asked if I'd be willing to give up my vacation days so she could go on her honeymoon. She apparently didn't. realize how quickly the days would fill up and waited too long to request her time off. Now, the only way she can go is if someone cancels, and since I have
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    one of the longest vacation blocks, she came to me first. I told her I was really sorry, but I can't give up my time. This trip means a lot to me, and it's the only time I can see my family this year. She wasn't happy and told me I was being selfish for not accommodating her "once-in-a-lifetime" event. Now, a few other coworkers are chiming in, suggesting I could be more flexible since I don't have "special circumstances" like a wedding.
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    I feel bad, but I also planned this trip far in advance, and it's important to me. AITA for not giving up my vacation. so she can go on her honeymoon?
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    Spoopyowo 17h ago • NTA, I am assuming she planned her wedding for a while, it's not your problem that she didn't think ahead. Enjoy your vacation!!
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    clearheaded01. 17h ago. ΝΤΑ Apparently her own honeymoon was not important enough to secure time off for it. Now, a few other coworkers are chiming in, suggesting I could be more flexible since I don't have "special circumstances" like a wedding Let them.give up.on their vacation, then...
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    believehype1616 16h ago Edited 2h ago ⚫ Just say, "I'm sorry, my trip is nonrefundable and expensive. There's no way I could undo the plans I've been making for a year. No other words necessary. It's on her. And on the company to decide if they could make an exception for her special event she badly planned for.
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    Edit: To those saying "No is a complete sentence." Sure absolutely. But this is not just one person, but several coworkers. Most people like to try to maintain at least neutral with their coworkers who they see daily and can have an impact on their career. So having a legit logic to politely reference can win them back to neutral and may be worth it.
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    Amazing_Reality2980 17h ago • • NTA You are not being selfish. Her poor planning does not constitute an emergency for you. She should have planned better and put in for the time off as soon as she could. Now she's got to deal with the consequences of her procrastination.
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    If she or your other coworkers keep giving you a bad time about this, take it to HR or your boss. It's not ok for them to be pressuring you and guilt tripping you about this. They're bullying you and creating a hostile work environment.
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    peakpenguins • 17h ago NTA, it's not your fault she waited so long to request the time off, and seeing your family is not less important than her honeymoon. If people don't back off I wouldn't be afraid to pull some "I have to go, my grandma is dying!" and watch them all feel real awkward. lol like
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    • Unpleasant_Advice · 17h ago • NTA, the wedding and honeymoon should also have been planned well in advance.
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    Own-Whereas-7420 17h ago • • Absolutely NOT. NTA, I repeat, NTA!! And the peanut gallery coworkers you have need to hush. You aren't selfish for taking the time that you put in well in advance. People make me sick ☺ she can reschedule their honeymoon trip, it doesn't HAVE to be right after the wedding.
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    K 00 FionaFierce11 · 17h ago • • 50% of weddings are once in a lifetime events. The other 50% plan better.
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    srkaficionada65 17h ago • • You're NTA but my petty behind would totally cancel my vacation IF and WHEN she pays me the equivalent of the greater of the PTO hours OR the cost of my travel and she'd have to pay it upfront. If she has money to plan a wedding and go on a honeymoon, she can pay me for inconveniencing me. I bet if you proposed something similar, she'd freaking back off.
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    Snackinpenguin 17h ago. NTA. Many people also delay their honeymoons. It doesn't HAVE to start the next day after their wedding. Don't think she was planning on paying you for your cancelled flight either or other non- refundable travel costs.
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    CuriousStudent1928 · 16h ago • NTA, "a lack of preparedness on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine"
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    OkCopy8361 17h ago NTA. She's being entitled. Your trip is something you planned a year ahead and something you get to do only once every few years. You're not chilling out twiddling your thumbs on your porch burning your PTO. Enjoy your holiday!

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